All true, robin. And for me, living up here, so far away from any remaining family, have spent many a Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, birthdays, alone. Tis hard. Two nieces live in Missouri & Kansas, plus one in GA.... nephew in GA, another in AZ, Nearly all the cousins have passed away, as has my husband. A daughter lives in Texas, another in GA, a son in a nursing facility, and my youngest about 300 miles away. We are spread far and wide, makes it difficult to bring any of us together, for sure.
It is so good of you, Robin, to look after your stepmother, since her immediate family refuses to do so. Does she have any idea why they don't seem to want to take any sort of responsibility. ? Probably a very long ago something or other. You are a good soul, stepping up to the plate. Blessings my friend. Not easy, I know.